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Sandra Dawson, MA Love And Relationship Coach |
What Are the Top Reasons for Divorce or Ending a Love Relationship?
The Answers May Surprise You!
If you are feeling unhappy in your love relationship or marriage right now, and you don’t know what to do, learn about the top reasons for divorce or ending a love relationship, so you can make the best decision possible.
The Top Reasons for Divorce
or Ending a Love Relationship
May Surprise You
You are probably feeling unhappy in your love relationship or marriage right now, and you are not sure what to do about it. You are not sure if your reasons for divorce are justified or your reasons for ending your love relationship are right.
You are very smart to be looking for some help. I am honored you have arrived at my website to explore your reasons for divorce or ending your love relationship.
Your personal happiness will very much depend on how you deal with your current marriage or love relationship problems. No matter what your reasons are for wanting a divorce, or ending your love relationship, you need to give yourself sufficient time and you need to get enough support to be sure you make the best decision.
I want to help you. I am a Relationship Coach with over 25 years experience working with individuals, couples, and groups, and I have been in your shoes.
Over 30 years ago now, I had to decide whether to stay in my marriage or leave.
I want to help you remove any doubt, fear, pain or uncertainty you may be feeling trying to make one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life.
Top Reasons for Divorce:
# 1: MONEY
One of the top reasons for divorce is money. This may surprise you. It surprised me. Are you having money problems? What are your money problems? Are you able to discuss your money problems with your partner?
Are your money problems caused by a life event that neither of you had control over, like an illness, like a fire that rages out of control and burns down your home, or a loss of job due to major lay-offs at you or your partner’s workplace?
Your money problems can be resolved. Money problems don’t have to lead to an end of your marriage or your love relationship. Even though money is one of the major causes of divorce, it doesn’t have to be the reason for you.
It is more important for you to deeply explore your reasons for divorce or ending your love relationship. If you make the right decision, happiness, love and peace of mind will be possible for you. If you make the wrong decision it could be a decision you will regret.
When it comes to relationships, I have discovered that some can be saved and some cannot be saved. But, only you can make the decision to stay or leave. I was a Marriage and Family Therapist for over 10 years in California, and I know from my professional experiences that couples can resolve conflicts. You can too.
What is the True State of Your
Marriage or Love Relationship?
Whatever your reasons are for a divorce now, or to end a love relationship now, the best thing you can do for yourself is to really understand the true state of your relationship.
You deserve to have a love-filled life. Life is too lonely to go through it without having the love you want. If you are wondering if you should work it out or if you should just leave, please take some time now and really evaluate your options.
It is so important for you to be very clear about your decision.
The best way for you to discover what the best decision will be for you is to read “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” This book was not available when I was in the same pain and state of indecision that you may be dealing with now. I missed out, but I don’t want you to miss out.
Please go here for more information about “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Or
If you know that your marriage or love relationship could be greatly improved if you loved yourself 100%, I want to recommend another ebook that I wish was available when I was making the same decision you are trying to make now. I wrote “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself,” to help you, if you are one of the millions of people who grew up in an unloving family. If so, you couldn’t learn how to love yourself as a child, because you weren’t being nurturred by parents who knew how to love themselves...so they couldn't raise you with the nurturing you truly needed
Please go here for more information about “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Or
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Top Reasons for Divorce:
# 2: INFIDELITY
Another one of the top reasons for divorce is infidelity. This may not surprise you. It didn’t surprise me. That was the reason I told myself that I had to get my divorce. In hindsight, it was not a good reason to use to end the relationship with my daughter’s father.
It was really an excuse, so I could avoid looking at my role in my marriage.
Is this also possibly true for you? Your relationship problems can be resolved. Infidelity does not have to lead to an end of your marriage or your love relationship. Even though it is one of the top reasons for divorce, it doesn’t have to be the reason for you.
To find out your role in this problem and what you can do about it,
go here for more information about: “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Or
To give yourself the gift of loving yourself to improve your relationship,
Go here for more information about: “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Top Reasons for Divorce:
# 3: POOR COMMUNICATION
Another one of the top reasons for divorce is poor communication. This is one of the reasons almost everyone can believe is a true problem in relationships. It is not a surprise. In fact, it should be at the top of the list for reasons for divorce. Most couples are arguing a lot when there are problems or not talking at all. This means they are suffering due to poor communication skills.
What is communication like in your marriage or love relationship? Maybe when you first met, you spent endless hours together talking about everything that was important to you. You enjoyed that time together.
What about now? Chances are something has closed down the communication channels in your marriage or love relationship, and that is why, poor communication is one of the top reasons for divorce or ending a love relationship. Again, poor communication can be resolved. Both you and your partner can learn healthy communication skills to keep your relationship passionate and full of joy.
Find out your role in this top reason for divorce.
Go here for more information about: “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Or
Give yourself the gift of self-love if that is blocking loving communication with your partner.
Go here for more information about: “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Top Reasons for Divorce:
#4: A DRAMATIC SHIFT IN VALUES
Another one of the top reasons for divorce is a dramatic shift in values. A value is something that is important to you. When a dramatic shift in values occurs in a marriage or love relationship, this means that what is a priority to each of you has changed.
An example of a dramatic shift in values often occurs when a baby is born. Before the baby arrives, each partner feels like they are getting undivided attention from each other. I believe this was the real cause of my first marriage ending in a divorce, but I didn’t know it at the time.
When a baby arrives, attention must be shifted to the needs of an infant which are very demanding. If this is a problem in your marriage or love relationship, please know that you do not have to end your marriage or love relationship, because of this shift.
You can discover your role in this problem:
Go here for more information about: “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Or
You can heal your childhood wounds by learning how to love yourself:
Go here for more information about: “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Top Reasons for Divorce:
#5: SEXUAL PROBLEMS
Another one of the top reasons for divorce is sexual problems. As a relationship coach and a prior Marriage and Family Therapist in California for over 10 years, this was the problem I heard most frequently from my clients. Even though this is not listed as the top reason for divorce here, I believe it is a bigger issue in marriages and love relationships than you might think.
Sexual problems really strike at the heart of a marriage or a love relationship. This is an area of your love life that should be 100% fulfilling for both partners. If this is one of your reasons for wanting a divorce or ending your love relationship, please pay extra special attention to what I am going tell you now.
The underlying cause of sexual problems in a marriage or love relationship is a lack of self-love. That is right. One or both of you do not value yourselves enough to feel free enough to enjoy spontaneous, and/or planned sexual fulfillment. What is blocking you from feeling comfortable about your sexuality? What is blocking your partner? Please don’t give up on your marriage or love relationship for this reason without deeply exploring your role in the problem.
The best way for you to discover your role in the problem is for you is to read “Should You Stay or Should You Go?” This book was not available when I was in the same pain and indecision you are dealing with now. I missed out on the valuable help I know it will give you, but I don’t want you to miss out.
Please go here for more information about “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Or
If you know that your marriage or love relationship could be greatly improved if you loved yourself 100%, I want to recommend another ebook that I wish was available when I was making the same decision you are trying to make now. I wrote “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself,” to help the millions of people who grew up in unloving families, and didn’t learn how to love themselves as children. Are you one of those people?
Please go here for more information about “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Please be assured that your information is safe with me. I do not share any information with anyone. Guaranteed.
Reasons for Divorce for Young Married Couples:
TIME, SEX AND MONEY
In a recent study by the Creighton University Center for Marriage and Family, couples reported that satisfaction in their marriages was greatly diminished due to the challenges of not having enough time, not having enough sex, and having to deal with debt brought into their marriage.
Are you having problems balancing your job and your family time together?
Are you having problems with the frequency of sexual relations?
Are you constantly arguing?
Are you unhappy with how household tasks are handled?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are not alone. This is a new era for couples to develop happy and fulfilling marriages and love relationships.
Please don’t take your marriage or your spouse for granted.
You know you love each other.
What you may not know is that neglecting these problems could become a reason for divorce in the years to come, if it already isn’t. Don’t neglect these problems. They won’t just go away without some effort on your part.
There is more pressure on you as a spouse in today’s world than there was on prior generations.
This means that there are many more reasons for divorce today, than in the past, because of time pressures.
The amount of time that each of us has each day is still 24 hours. It has always been 24 hours, and it will always be 24 hours.
What has changed is significant for marriages and love relationships, however.
What has changed is that everyone of us must do more and more within the same time frame than ever before.
This means we must be much more efficient and effective in our daily routines and we must have excellent communication skills. Relationships could quietly endure the lack of working together in the past. Not any more.
You must be working together or your reasons for divorce or ending a love relationship will become a statistic. You need to roll up your sleeves and take responsibility for improving in all of these areas in your life.
I am here to help you clearly identify what you need to work on. I will give you a free
30 minute coaching session to help you identify the solutions to your marriage or love relationship problems. None of these reasons for divorce have to affect your love life.
All you need to do is request a free coaching session with me, Sandra Dawson, MA, America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert: Stop Divorce
I have helped many couples stay together, and I have helped some couples divorce. Only you know what is the best decision for the two of you, but you do need some gentle, warm, and wise support in your decision making process. I can give you that support, and I will be honored to help you at this critical time in your life. Click here to fill out my coaching form.
Statistics for Divorce
Statistics for divorce are still pretty high. For first marriages, the percentage is 50%. For second marriages, the percentage is even higher. It is 60%.
If you don’t want to be a divorce statistic, please take some action right now. You need to decide to make a deep commitment to working on your marriage or your love relationship. Not making a decision to stay and working through your issues, is a decision that can bring about very negative consequences. Not making a decision can lead you to the divorce you don’t want.
Problems don’t go away because we ignore them. So if your intuition is telling you your marriage can become a fulfilling experience again, then it is time to do your work.
IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO!
I Wish These Resources Had Been
Available
For Me Years Ago When My
First Marriage was in Trouble.
An important principle of relationships to remember at this time in your life is that, “it takes two to tango.” No matter what reasons you have for a divorce or ending a love relationship, you are playing a role in the problems. Please find out what you are doing and what you can do to help your relationship.
If you are uncertain about what to do with your marriage or love relationship, I highly recommend an ebook called, “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
Please go here for more information about “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
If you know you need to love yourself more, because you haven’t healed your abusive or traumatic childhood, I highly recommend my ebook called, “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Please go here for more information about “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
Or
Please be assured that your information is safe with me. I do not share any information with anyone. Guaranteed.
Summary of Top
Reasons for Divorce
In summary, the top reasons for divorce or ending a love relationship are money, infidelity, poor communication, a dramatic shift in values, and sexual problems.
If you are a young couple in your 20’s or 30’s, research has shown that reasons for a divorce have now become three issues. The issues are time, sex and money.
None of these reasons have to cause a divorce. All of them can be resolved. But you must be open to exploring your role in your marriage problems in order to stop a possible divorce.
If you are willing to explore your role and what you can do to save your marriage or your love relationship, please go here to learn more about: “Should You Stay or Should You Go?”
If you know you are suffering from an abusive or traumatic childhood, then please go here to learn more about: “How to Fall Madly in Love with Yourself.”
If you would like a free coaching session with Sandra Dawson, MA, America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert, then please complete my coaching form to discover
"Your Real Relationship Problems."
I will get back to you to schedule a mutually convenient time to talk. I will help you clearly identify your problems and what you can do about them.
Thank you so much for reaching out for help during this very important time in your life..
With love and blessings,
Sandra Dawson, MA
Love and Relationship Coach
America’s Most Loving Relationship and Trauma Expert
Institute for Self-Love
PO Box 86
Westhampton Beach, NY
631 228 4361